Public Displays of Affection and Social Media
The human tendency to express emotions publicly has been a debatable topic across sects, societies, cultures, and continents. While it is a common scene in the Western countries to see people holding hands, kissing, and hugging, it is frowned upon in some conservative societies, such as that of Saudi Arabia. ‘Getting close’ takes a literal meaning in every nightclub in the world, where clothed pornography meets teasing and casually passes through dancing (you’re just working through the beat).
But the topic today goes from the reality of our physical selves and friends to our online identity which seems to emulate this phenomenon. This skeuomorphism of our behavior has been incorporated into the digital world, creating even more debate as to what extent this should be tolerated online. Should my twitter account be flooded with heart-shaped binaries and cheesy poems between two socially-savvy lovebirds?
It may be an act of confidence showing that someone has a partner who’s as trendy as he is, or chasing away any potential home-wreckers. It’s the real-life equivalent of holding your partner close when a nearby predator is caught on your radar. Same goes online, but on the expense of the comfort of those who care less.
The complaints of us non-PDA users have been met with a need for a private social network. Introducing Pair, the most common social network for two. Now on iOS and Android, Pair seeks to make the lives of couples private, sharing photos, reminders, text messages, and the like, all for the convenience of themselves and their fellow members of the globe.
It’s a nice gesture to express your endowed interest in your partner at the sights of everyone. Proposals at shopping malls and movie theaters have become the latest trends in conveying true love and friendship by showing the world how much that person means to you, making them live a hollywood chick flick and experience something that every girl dreams off.
Yet it’s not that that we hate. Heck, I’d even participate in making this couple fulfil their lives in a flash mob. But it’s the “you hang up, no you hang up” kind of tweets and facebook posts that irritate the hell out of me. It’s one thing to tweet something nice to your significant other, but tweeting back and forth over which restaurant to choose and end every tweet with ‘yours forever’ and ‘miss you already’ and all kinds of x’s and o’s is just plain shallow and disturbing.
In the online world we live in, context phrases like “Get a room” will soon evolve to “Go Facetime” or anything of the sort.