Social Media and the Relationship Status
It’s not a news flash when someone states that Facebook has altered the way we interact with society, but to what extent? Rather being a platform to interact with society, online social media have become the visible display of dirty laundry, a haven for gossip, and the ‘last chance’ before the relationship knot is untied.
While social media started by relying on societal interactions, the opposite is now true. Society has become so influenced by social media that it has diffused into real life and become such an important factor in building relationships, and notably, breaking them. The question “Is it Facebook official?” has become THE determinant for modern relationships.
See, during the old days, once a relationship is broken, it has the privilege of staying private with the partners’ inner circles. Yet our days lack this freedom; once a couple separate, so does a Facebook status that should express the news and propagate it across the nation and beyond. The young, the old, the relative, the enemy, the stranger, the fake, and even the inactive will get the knowledge of your status, and judge upon it by interacting with it online or off the record. The point is, there’s no way of running away from the unwanted hype or the gossip, and sooner or later, everyone will know.
Manhattan psychologist Joseph Cilona states that people have a greater tendency to share their emotional aspects, particularly when it comes to their love life when emotions are at their highest: during the “honeymoon phase” or when a relationship comes to an end.
“The reality is that there is always a very high possibility that any romantic relationship might not work out at some point, so it’s really wise to think ahead and circumvent these kinds of problems,” he said.
“Sharing information about personal life, particularly details about romantic relationships, is often related to needs for external validation, approval or admiration,” Cilona claimed. “The underlying emotional subtext of this kind of behavior might be stated as trying to communicate the message: ‘I am valuable because someone loves me.’ ”
For this reason, social media has become the ‘last station’ before the partners go there separate ways. Some even stay with no intent of pursuing the relationship just for the sake of avoiding the whole charade! Once that status is changed, so does the mode of interaction with the ones who read it. Friends would ask “Did they change their status?” and gasp at the confirmation, realizing the seriousness of such an action.
Personal information should be shared to close friends and family, not beyond. People now scavenge the information junkyards for relationship breakups, hook-ups, and complications. Who can blame them when everyone seeks his perfect mate among their friends, or stalking a crush with the dire hope of browsing the Home Feed for “Single” as their new relationship status.